But it had. And, as a consequence, this man had never returned to church. Neither had his wife or children. I apologized to him and expressed my sorrow that he had been treated that way.
This nice church is not for perfect people
I told him how unfortunate it was that one word spoken in haste, and so long ago, could have the effect of excluding his family from the blessings that come from Church activity. I did my best to do so. I reassured him that he was welcome and needed. I rejoiced when this man and his family eventually returned to church and became strong and faithful members. In particular, this good brother became an effective home teacher because he understood how something as small as an unkind word could have consequences that extend throughout a lifetime and perhaps beyond.
Kindness is the essence of greatness and the fundamental characteristic of the noblest men and women I have known. Kindness is a passport that opens doors and fashions friends. It softens hearts and molds relationships that can last lifetimes.
Kind words not only lift our spirits in the moment they are given, but they can linger with us over the years. One day, when I was in college, a man seven years my senior congratulated me on my performance in a football game.
He not only praised how well I had done in the game, but he had noticed that I had showed good sportsmanship. Hinckley, who would later become President of the Church. The attributes of thoughtfulness and kindness are inseparably linked with President Hinckley. When my father passed away in , President Hinckley was the first person to come to our home. He gave my mother a blessing and, among other things, promised her that she had much to look forward to and that life would be sweet for her.
Kindness is the essence of a celestial life. Kindness is how a Christlike person treats others. Kindness should permeate all of our words and actions at work, at school, at church, and especially in our homes. Jesus, our Savior, was the epitome of kindness and compassion. He healed the sick. He spent much of His time ministering to the one or many. He spoke compassionately to the Samaritan woman who was looked down upon by many.
He instructed His disciples to allow the little children to come unto Him. He was kind to all who had sinned, condemning only the sin, not the sinner.
John Osteen quote: The Church is not a museum to display perfect people
He kindly allowed thousands of Nephites to come forward and feel the nail prints in His hands and feet. Yet His greatest act of kindness was found in His atoning sacrifice, thus freeing all from the effects of death, and all from the effects of sin, on conditions of repentance.
The Prophet Joseph Smith exemplified kindness in his life to everyone, old and young. It had been raining the previous day, causing the ground to be very muddy, especially along that street. My brother Wallace and I both got [our feet] in the mud, and could not get out, and of course, child-like, we began to cry, for we thought we would have to stay there. But looking up, I beheld the loving friend of children, the Prophet Joseph, coming to us.
He soon had us on higher and drier ground. Then he stooped down and cleaned the mud from our little, heavy-laden shoes, took his handkerchief from his pocket and wiped our tear-stained faces. He spoke kind and cheering words to us, and sent us on our way to school rejoicing. There is no substitute for kindness in the home.
This lesson I learned from my father. As a result, he was a better, wiser, and kinder man. I value her opinion. Ofttimes before my wife has finished her sentence, I have already planned out in my mind a magnificent apology. In truth, my wife is a model of kindness, gentleness, and compassion.
And her insight, counsel, and support have been invaluable to me. Because of her I, too, am a wiser and kinder person. They see and learn both the kind and the unkind things we say or do. Nothing exposes our true selves more than how we treat one another in the home. I often wonder why some feel they must be critical of others. Even when we think we are doing no harm by our critical remarks, consequences often follow. If you are headed to church, I hope you'll remember the phrase "In the quiet heart is hidden, sorrow that they eye can't see.
A chapel, like a hospital, is open for all people with all different types of problems. Some problems are more visible than others. Realize that you only know a small portion of their real story. If you knew them better, you'd understand. So let's welcome and accept everyone we interact with at church, no matter how they act outside of church, how they're dressed, what they smell like, how many piercings they have, how many tattoos we see, or the words they use.
Pope Francis: The Church is not a community of ‘perfect people’
They likely think they don't live as "righteously" as you do and they came anyway. That took courage. Be as merciful to others as you hope God will be merciful to you.